What's in a name?
A year ago I attempted to use humor to defuse a family situation that was unfolding in a destructive and painful way. It turned out to be a poor attempt, and came up suddenly and unexpectedly from somewhere deep inside of me that was, upon retrospect, filled with both the urge to make the suffering stop, and the very human, but ugly, desire to shame the perpetrator. At the time, I just did what I felt. And, it was the best I could do in that moment. But, it backfired, and probably did more harm than good in an already very sick dynamic.
This story helped me understand what happened in that moment, and helped prepare me for other opportunities that may arise in the future, places where humor, inserted skillfully, can help heal:
Bing Wright, Broken Mirror/Evening Sky, (2012).
Just this. Just beautiful.
Life: always a mirror. And so often broken.
What, you feel like a lost little child? Welcome to the human race. Welcome to my world. You know what this world has taught me? It has told me, over and over again…hey sister, you want some love? Good luck! And guess what? LOVE anyway. You want unconditional positive regard? Guess what? It’s not fucking there for you. LOVE anyway. You know why? Because one of these times, there will be someone who loves like you do, who loves anyway, who is not afraid, not pouting, not petulant or spoiled or succumbing to their FUCKING FEAR. There will be someone who just loves anyway, no matter what. And if you never find that person before you die? Well guess what? LOVE anyway. They are on the other side. They are waiting for you. They have been there for millions and billions of years, and you won’t even recognize them until you get there. That person, those persons, those creatures/entities/beings who know how to love…? Yeah, those amazing creations. They are standing right in front of you, right now, waiting to be noticed, waiting to say yes, to hear you say YES, waiting to see the look on your face when you find out, forever, that you are LOVED and ADORED beyond all measure. Take it all in stride now, sweet sister. The love is right there, just waiting for you. Say YES to LOVE. Namaste’.
Sometimes silence says much more, & better, than we do in words. Alternatively? Sing it.
~David Whyte, Mid-Life and the Great Unknown